RELATIONSHIP THERAPY AND COACHING
Working Together in Real Time, Wherever You Are in The UK

If you and someone you care about keep looping through the same arguments, miscommunications, or

moments of disconnection, therapy can help you break the cycle. Whether your relationship is romantic,

platonic, with a parent or a sibling, the emotional patterns that cause conflict tend to work the same way - and

the great new is, they can be changed. 

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My systemic approach is direct, grounded, and based in both the PACT & Gottman methods. You’ll find I don’t

sit back and let arguments go in circles. If you hire me, you are inviting me to actively help you move toward

secure functioning. I will help you slow the moment down, understand the pattern, and get to the root of the

problem so you can move forward differently and reach your goals, whatever they may be. I work with

Neurotypical, Neurodivergent, and mix neurotype couples. Please see the page on Co-Therapy for more 

information on working with two therapists.

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Got one foot out the relationship?

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It is really normal for one person to be more into the idea of relationship coaching/therapy than the other. Even if you think relationship coaching/therapy isn’t for you, or you are not really sure if you are still invested in this relationship, it’s worth considering as the work we’ll do will likely benefit you in all future relationships. I’ll explain a little about how it works and why it might be a good idea, whatever your individual goals.

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What Makes This Therapy Different

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You won’t just rehash the last fight. We look at the real mechanisms driving it.

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I’ll intervene when needed. If the two of you start slipping into the same argument, I guide you back to what matters.

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We work with reality. That means your nervous systems, your attachment styles, your real-life habits, and the ways you each signal safety or threat - often without realising it

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It’s practical. You’ll leave sessions with tools and knowledge you can use the same day.

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What exactly is PACT?

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PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy) is a model designed to understand and transform the deeper forces shaping your interactions. We call this secure functioning. Instead of focusing only on communication techniques (that in reality we all forget when under stress!), PACT works with:

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1. Your nervous systems

When you’re activated, your body goes into self‑protection before your mind catches up. This is just biology and is a fact of life. PACT helps you learn to regulate in the moment, so you can respond instead of react. A handy skill to have, and couples often find this understanding and practice helps them with parenting and in work situations, which is an extra bonus!

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2. Your attachment patterns

Your early experiences influence what you expect from closeness now - whether you seek comfort quickly, pull away, fear conflict, over‑explain, or rush to fix. These patterns show up in all close relationships, romantic or not.

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3. Your micro‑interactions

Eye movements, tone shifts, body leaning, timing - these tiny cues often escalate or defuse conflict. Working with me will help both of you see and change these patterns in real time.

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4. Realistic, moment‑by‑moment work

Instead of simply talking about fights, we look at how they happen. We slow things down, examine the loop, and practice new ways of interacting.

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In short: PACT is a practical, evidence‑informed way of working with what actually happens between two people - it is not just talking, discussing abstract theories or papering over the cracks.

How We Work Together

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Initial Sessions (60 - 90 minutes)

• We learn about your history and current challenges.

• We map your recurring cycle.

• We clarify what each person actually wants from the relationship.

Ongoing Sessions (60 - 90 minutes, but ideally 90 mins)

• We practice new communication habits.

• We work with your nervous systems to reduce reactivity.

• We stop unhelpful arguments early and redirect toward understanding.

• We develop concrete tools to use between sessions.

Who I Work With

• Married partners

• Life‑long friends

• Cohabiting partners

• Siblings or adult family pairs

• Co‑parents (romantic or not)

• Any close dyad wanting healthier, more stable connection

What You Can Expect

• Clarity. You’ll finally understand why the same arguments keep resurfacing.

• Momentum. We won’t let things stay stuck — each session moves you forward.

• Repair and connection. You’ll learn how to return to safety and trust after conflict.

• A grounded, real approach. No gimmicks, no scripts. Just honest work with what’s truly happening.

Ready to Take the Next Step?

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If you hadn’t already figured it out, relationship coaching/therapy requires some level of commitment to the work, but it can be truly life changing. If you’re curious whether this approach fits what you need, you’re welcome to connect and request a discovery call. We’ll discuss what’s been happening, what you hope to change, and whether this work feels right for both of you.